Friday, September 21, 2018

Happiness and Suffering Are Only Appearances, They Are Not Real

my uncle lama Gephel 
Happiness and Suffering Are Only Appearances, They Are Not Real

         I bow with reverence to You, my root Guru whose kindness can never be repaid. From the sphere of primordial wisdom may you look after me with great compassion and bestow your blessings.

         Today in my blog I am writing, briefly, for the sake of beginners, about how outer appearances are merely appearances, and do not truly exist from their own side. The objects of the five senses, forms that are seen, sounds that are heard, objects that are smelled, tasted and touched, all objects in the environment and living beings, do not exist even slightly from the side of the object. The reason for this is that they arise in interdependence. Whatever arises in interdependence exists as cause and effect. Anything which exists as cause and effect is impermanent in nature; and anything which arises in interdependence is empty of self existence. As Nagarjuna said,

There is nothing which is not interdependent,
Therefore there is nothing which is not emptiness.

         If you understand this secret point, that all things are interdependent, you will naturally understand emptiness; the realization of emptiness is what we really need. All the various appearances of objects to the five senses arise through the power of the karma and disposition of living beings, but whatever exists for one sentient being does not necessarily exist for everyone. The different karmic appearances of the six types of lifeforms are an example. It is for this reason that Buddhism does not accept a world creator. All the Indian and Tibetan masters clearly and extensively explain in their writings how this world arises by the power of imprints in the mind. All sentient beings have their different appearances of objects of the external world. Taking this earth for example; for hell beings it has the nature of burning iron, for human beings it is ground to walk on, but for many animals it is a home. Water for human beings and most animals is something to drink to quench their thirst, but for hell beings it is molten metal, for hungry spirits it is pus and blood, for fish and other creatures it is their home, and for divine beings it is nectar; it appears differently to the six types of lifeforms.
         If you really check and investigate there is nothing which truly exists as it appears from its own side; that is what Buddha says. Other religions say that this world is made by God, but Dharmakirti, in his Commentary on Valid Cognition four hundred years after Buddha’s paranirvana, and Nagarjuna, in his Root Wisdom and other treatises, used four lines of reasoning of the Middle Way — the diamond slivers, the refutation of existent or non-existent results, the absence of true singularity or multiplicity in objects, and the great reasoning of interdependence — to refute and show the logical faults of this assertion, so there is no need for me to go into great detail about it here.
         Therefore, if objects do not exist from their own side, the happiness and suffering that arises in dependence upon them is also impermanent. For example, someone who is burning up with heat because of doing a lot of work in the sun wants coldness. They rely upon cold to free themselves from the painful heat. When the cold first touches their body for a few minutes the person feels a special happiness of body and mind. This is because of the existence of the previous heat. After a few minutes even that previous pleasant feeling of coolness will turn into suffering. Then they need to go into the sun again. On contact with the sun, they feel a special happiness of body and mind. Again, after a few minutes that pleasant heat of the sun turns into suffering, and they don’t want to stay in it. All objects of the senses are similar in this way. Feelings of happiness and suffering arise primarily on the basis of the mind; not because of the external object.
         According to the Middle Way Consequentialist explanation, objects of attachment do not exist self-sufficiently, from their own side: subject and object are only designated by the mind, relative to each other. For example, self and other, long and short, hot and cold, large and small, all exist relative to each other. Short is a label that is given relative to something long. The convention of ‘shortness’ cannot exist without something long. In this way all things are posited relative to each other and do not truly exist from their own side.
         If happiness and suffering existed externally, no matter how long you stayed in the sun it would just get more and more pleasant. It’s not like that. The present pleasant feeling itself becomes unpleasant. The objects of pleasure and displeasure do not exist from their own side.
         That is why the first lines of the Four Seals of Buddha’s Teaching are so important. He said,

All compounded things are impermanent.
All contaminated things are suffering.
All phenomena are empty and selfless.
Nirvana is peace.

         The second line, All contaminated things are suffering, has vast meaning. Buddha did not say happiness of the senses is bad, don’t enjoy it. It’s just that happiness which arises from external objects of the five senses is not real happiness. Don’t be attached to it. Don’t be fooled by it. If we chase after it with attachment and craving, finally, like an elephant stuck in the mud or a fish caught on a hook, that temporary happiness takes away our freedom. It does not mean that those external objects are bad. As the Mahasiddha Tilopa instructed Naropa,

Son, appearances don’t bind you, craving them does!
Cut off craving, Naropa!

As he said, we should understand: if our attachment and craving towards objects is excessive, those objects will hurt us. All things of samsara are like that. Happiness and suffering do not exist in those objects, themselves.
         Having lived a long time in monasteries in the East I never had much contact with people in romantic relationships. Since coming to the West, however, I have had a lot of chance to observe the phenomenon and this is what I have noticed. In the love and affection between people there develops strong attachment. The friends, at first, see their partner’s body, speech, and mind, inside and out, as one hundred percent pleasant and good as they appear to be; they would even give up their life and all of their possessions for them. After a while, the attachment to the object of their affection wanes. Later on they see the person as an unwanted bad omen, and feel that, if they can’t get away from them, they won’t be happy at all. They don’t want to stay with them, and they see them as completely unpleasant on every level, outer, inner, and secret. Why would someone who seems completely charming at first later become someone you can’t bear to see? Your two eyes are the same as before, the object seen is the same as before.
         I’ll explain this logically. First, let’s think precisely about what Buddha said: ‘All compounded things are impermanent, and all contaminated things are suffering.’ If something is impermanent, then there is suffering. Whatever changes is under the power of other; it arises through the force of impermanence. The object itself has no choice but to change. We shouldn’t think it is the other person’s fault when they change because it is under the influence of forces other than themselves that they change from how they were before to how they became later.
         Related to this subject, Nagarjuna said,

Although Buddhas call objects adversaries, it is not people,
Rather, it is the delusions in their minds that are the real foe.

If someone hurts us it is because of delusions in their mind. Therefore Buddha said that we should not consider the person as an enemy, but have compassion for them and consider the delusions in their mind as the actual enemy.
         Secondly, without first investigating the object of your attachment, many mistaken thoughts, such as of attachment, crowd into your mind one after another, connecting your mind’s way of seeing to the object of attachment. Because of this, what your mind sees is not objective and does not accord with reality. This happens a lot with our five senses. In any case, we must understand that happiness and suffering are not caused by the objects of our senses, but by the way we perceive those objects. Our way of seeing follows a mistaken awareness. The actual object does not truly exist as it appears, like a mirage or a dream.
         If objects of the senses were happiness, modern day people who are rich and famous should be happy, but they aren’t. As said in the Guide to the Bodhisattva Conduct.

Tormented by collecting, protecting, and losing it,
You should know that wealth brings endless ruin.
Those who are distracted by attachment to wealth
Have no chance to be free from suffering existence.

Buddha, as well, said,

One who has wealth has suffering.

He said that the more wealth a person has, the more mental suffering they have. No matter how much you enjoy desirable objects of the senses it brings no satisfaction and finally brings additional suffering. The best wealth is contentment. We can be sure of that.
         I want to tell a short story. I had an uncle, my mother’s brother. His name was Lama Gepel. He was very holy and virtuous, the master teacher of Dege Zhechen Monastery. More than my uncle, he was the teacher who helped me most of all. He was a very honest and direct person. If I made a little mistake he would scold me. If he were still alive he would be in his nineties. Unfortunately, he passed away in 1996.
         Not only did he truly spend his whole life in the practice of Dharma, he was also the recognized incarnation of a great ‘tertön' — a treasure revealer. Although he had discovered many mind-termas, my uncle abhorred fame and pretense. He was always contented and had few desires. When I was fifteen I went to be his attendant. He had an eye disease at that time and his right eye had gone blind. His left eye also later went blind from the disease. He was the greatest Lama of the monastery and he had very many attendants, but it was only two other monks and myself who remained constantly at his side throughout the day and night. I was always very worried and troubled about my uncle’s sight. One day some of his best students and I insisted that we should take him to the hospital to have his eyes opened. At first he wouldn’t agree to it. We asked again, all of us crying and insisting, and finally he said, ‘Okay, this time I will go to the hospital as you wish.’ 
         When we went to the hospital and they examined him, the doctor said that his left eye could be opened. We were all extremely happy. The doctor opened his eye and we all returned to the monastery. When we got back to the monastery and he could see with one eye, the disciples were overjoyed. With one eye, at the wishes of others, he was kept very busy conducting services and giving initiations and teachings to the monks and lay people at the monasteries of the area. He couldn’t go into retreat and do as much practice as he would have liked. This was because he was the only source of refuge to whom the local monasteries could go to make their requests. Sometimes he would say jokingly to me, ‘My nephew did me serious harm by getting my eye opened!’
         About two years later his eye disease got worse and he went completely blind again. He stayed doing practice, never leaving his meditation seat throughout the day and night. When we again begged him to please let us take him to the hospital, he said in a very decisive way, ‘Previously, up to now, pursuing what these water-bubbles of my eyes saw, I don’t think there was anything I didn’t see, but I never saw anything very wonderful in the world. Everything I saw was the same. Better than shapes, colors, and so forth, now that I am blind I see something I never saw with my eyes. I don’t want to give up this amazing display! My root Guru and the Three Jewels have given me this blindness but I wish they had given it to me earlier! I am never going back to the hospital! Don’t be disappointed!’ He lived with his blindness for about eight more years, before he died in 1996 amidst amazing signs.
         Many people seek happiness by chasing after the objects of their senses. True happiness, however, is found only in the mind, not outside. Buddhas above and sentient beings below see the same things, but Buddhas see them without dualistic grasping, like they are illusions or dreams. We ordinary beings grasp them as truly existent, never doubting that they are real. Toward those things which appear pleasant to us we develop attachment, towards things which appear unpleasant to us we develop aversion, and towards things which appear neither pleasant nor unpleasant to us, we are indifferent. We grasp these objects which ultimately do not exist from their own side as if they did exist from their own side. It is like, in the darkness of dusk, mistakenly thinking that a striped rope is really a snake.
         In his Commentary on Bodhicitta, Nagarjuna said,                                                                                                                                   

Those supreme on two legs
Teach the Bodhisattvas about the aggregates like this:
Forms are like bursting bubbles.
Feelings are like bubbles of water,
Perceptions are similar to mirages,
Karmic formations are like plantain trees
And consciousness is like illusion.

Accordingly, as Buddhas enjoy objects of form, sound, and so forth, they view them without grasping, like unreal illusions. Without rejecting objects of the senses we should give up grasping them. Even if we had to abandon external objects of form, sound, etc, there would be no way to do it. It is better to give up the dualistic mental grasping within us; then the appearance of external objects can’t hurt us.

Guide to the Bodhisattva Conduct states,

Even if we tried to cover the earth
With leather, where would we get it?
With leather covering just the soles of our shoes
It is just as if we had covered the whole earth.

This is a very good example. Even if we had to cover up externally grasped objects, we could not, and it would be meaningless. Shantideva is saying that it would be better if we could take control of our own mind.
         Thus, it is better if we don’t deceive ourselves by thinking that desirable qualities of outer forms, sounds, and so forth provide true happiness. Understanding that ultimate happiness comes from within, we should think about what the best method to attain it is, and how to find that method. With this, I’ll conclude today’s blog.

With temporary happiness from objects of the five senses
We will never be satisfied; it is like scratching a rash.
If we polish the clean, clear mirror of our mind,
We will see happiness arise from within.

Having few desires and contentment is the king of wealth.
Altruistic Bodhicitta is the essence of Dharma.
If you want to attain perfect, lasting happiness,
Don’t seek happiness outside; seek it within.

The more you enjoy the supreme medicinal nectar
Of contentment, it is a treasury of stainless qualities.
Objects of the five senses are like salt water;
The more you drink it the thirstier you become.

Hoping that this would benefit my Dharma friends, Khenpo Karten wrote it September 14, 2018.

Sarva Mangalam
May all be auspicious!
Translation by Jampa Tharchin

Tuesday, September 11, 2018


Today I would like share about my daily life in California. everyone is so busy and engrossed with their own lives and various social obligations and entertainments. Some people chase after wealth or material enjoyments, while others use their precious time to benefit other sentient beings. We are in the realm of the form of desires so naturally we crave satisfaction of the five pleasurable desires (sight , sounds, smell, taste and touch). Hence we are subject to much suffering in this realm of joy and sorrow which can only be alleviated through the practice of dharma.

A good dharma practitioner will start preparing for their next life right here in this life.  Hence I contemplate and think not only about this life but also about the next.  I also make it a point to go for my annual one month retreat to renew and "recharge my batteries" so to speak.  As I have many responsibilities here at Pacific Grove and around the world, I have to take time out to be by myself for my meditation practice. Unfortunately I did not have the opportunity to do my month long retreat for the past two years due to my tight schedule. It is very important to renew our meditation and practice daily no matter how far you have progressed in your dharma cultivation. We can then reap the fruits of our practice if we can maintain our awareness or mindfulness for six periods of day and night. That is why practice is so important.

Although intrinsically we are different, basically we are all human beings wanting happiness of the mind and to be free from harm and suffering.  His Holiness the Dalai Lama always used to say that his daily practice is to dedicate his body, speech and mind to all sentient beings. Since I am the student of His Holiness, I try to be humble at all times and also to follow his teachings and way of life. I try my best to dedicate my body, speech and mind to everyone I encounter. Compassion for others makes every mundane activity we do meaningful.

As Shantideva said in "The Bodhisattva way of life ":

For as long as space endures

And for as long as living beings remain,

Until then may I, too, abide

To dispel the misery of the world.

When I first came to America, I noticed that everyone was so busy with worldly activities without any true purpose in life and time is just gone in an instant. This precious human life should then not be wasted on meaningless activities but on cultivating the seed of bodhicitta for liberation for self and others within this lifetime. You will then be accumulating vast amount of merit when you lead your life benefiting others.

The early morning is the time that I dedicate specially for my dharma practice. I do my daily prostrations and make water bowl, candle light and incense offerings at the altar.  After which I will have my big American breakfast and I will rest for a little. I will then proceed to do my daily prayers and then meditate for 4-5 hours if I have the time to do so. I do not want to loose this precious time as mornings is the best time which is conducive for dharma practice since my mind is still fresh. At times I will then hang this "Do Not Disturb" sign outside my front door as I do not want to disrupt my dharma practice or lose my meditative concentration. Also as this Dharma Center is near the main road, there will be lots of people who pass by just to say hi or knock on the door. Many are curious as to what place this is and ask if this is the place for yoga classes? Some knock on the door and ask what is dharma? I will then explain briefly that dharma is the teachings of Lord Buddha Shakyamuni and is the path that we must take towards happiness, by having the wisdom to completely discern the truth of our delusions and the way out of suffering.

Of course, if you really want to be serious about dharma practice then this is the right place for you and everyone is welcome to join in. A dharma center is likened to a hospital where the teacher is the doctor, dharma students are the patients and dharma is the antidote or medicine for the mind.

Dharma is so important to me as we all want happiness and peace of mind, and only dharma can make me really happy. Not only is dharma happiness important, I also really wish to help everyone including my Sangha (students) as much as I can. All beings within the six realms of Samsara experience suffering as Samsara is the very nature of suffering. And as Vajrayana practitioners, we must practice with the intention to benefit all beings as wide as space. Above everything else, focus on this.

When I was 23 years old, my second guru teacher was Khenpo Karma Tseten. He was 85 years old at that time. I had received many teachings from him and he always said to me "Lama if you really want to help others, you have to practice dharma yourself first." For example someone is really thirsty and asked you for some water to quench his thirst. First you have to check your own cup to see how much water you have contained inside. Because if you gave away all your water,  you will then have none left for yourself. How much water you have in your cup you can check and then simply just share it or drink it. In this analogy, water is the dharma and all beings are suffering of thirst due to the three poisons of attachment, aversion and ignorance.

Another analogy is an example where your neighbor's or maybe your family's house is dangerously ablaze and engulfed in fire. You really want to go help put out the raging fire. But first you have to think about how you are going to help fight the fire. Do you want to go empty handed which is very silly and dangerous? This attempt might even bring you harm at the cost of your life. So then how do we help? We will need lots of water in order to fight and eventually put out the blazing fire. This big fire represents the flames of Samsara (birth, sickness, old age and death) and we experience intense suffering just like the fire. Dharma is then the nectar or the water that is necessary to put out this fire of pain and suffering. Samsara is an ocean of suffering and an endless wandering in cyclic existence but if we possess the precious dharma nectar of bodhicitta, loving kindness and compassion, then there will be no fire that we cannot extinguish. We will then be able to escape and transcend this wheel of Samsara.

As dharma practitioners, we have to know how much loving kindness and compassion we have generated in the course of our practice. The essence of the 84,000 teachings of the Buddha is in fact loving kindness and compassion. All the six paramitas (paramita of generosity, discipline,  patience, meditative concentration, diligence and wisdom) are included in that and if you have generated loving kindness and compassion in your mind-streams then all your worldly activities will be transformed. So then you will be accumulating virtue during all your waking moments, while working or buying the groceries and even while you sleep.

So which level of Prajnaparamita (perfection of wisdom - "Tayatha Gate Gate Paragate ParaSamGate Bodhi Soha" are you at? Are you still at Tayatha or past the "Gate" or beyond? There are altogether ten grounds (stages) and five paths of the Bodhisattva path to enlightenment. The five paths being the path of accumulation, the path of application, the path of seeing, the path of meditation and finally the path of no more learning. Are you still at the level of sentient being or Arahant or Buddha or Bodhisattva? If you are still at the level of a normal sentient being then how can you help others go beyond the shores of Samsara? You cannot help.

For example, there are two people who wish to cross the river but unfortunately the river is too wide to cross. They break down to cry as they can't help one another since they are both heavily burdened with the weight of afflictive emotions and attachments in the great ocean of Samsara.

Buddha called Samsara ‘an ocean of suffering.’ The important thing is that we become able to transform it into happiness, with suffering acting as the causal condition. Bodhisattva Togme Zangpo said,

When things are good, send it out to all beings.

May the benefit and bliss fill all of space!

When things are bad, take away the sufferings of all;

May the ocean of samsara be dried up! 

That is why it is of utmost importance that you have to practice first. I always think that since I am the teacher, I have to set a good example for all my dharma students. It doesn't matter if they choose to follow me or not but I should first set the example. If the teacher and the student are always on the same level then how can the teacher help the student to progress on the path? That is why my daily morning practice time is so important to me. Everyday after 1:00 pm I will go to the beach for a walk and then come back home for a late lunch. There are days where I will have dinner in the evenings with my students in Big Sur or visit some sick patients in the hospital elsewhere.  I do not take dinner but sometimes there will be important things I will have to do. Most times I will stay home to read or meditate on impermanence and also reflect on what I have done for the day. Of course there will be also be the usual Monday night Amitabha Puja/Teachings at 6.30 pm and Saturday morning meditation sessions at 10 am.

Therefore, everyone please study, contemplate and put this into practice. Dharma is not just hearing or studying but Dharma must merge into the depths of your heart.  Not only must Dharma connect to your body and speech, Dharma must also be linked to your mind at all times. Only then can the timeless and unconditioned Dharma be an antidote to your delusions. If Dharma strikes the right point you don't have to know many teachings for it to captivate your heart and mind. The smallest practice of Dharma can definitely transform your mind. Therefore I wish that everyone can practice the Dharma diligently so that you can have a more refined understanding of the dharma. Some students may say "I have studied for so many years and I have also been here at the center for eight years but I am still the same person. What happened?" Of course, without practice there will be no results. No pain no gain. So in summary you have to continuously practice dharma everyday without disruption just like the river that flows unceasingly into the great ocean.

"What you want is only happiness

Yet what you create is nothing but suffering

O mothers following mistaken paths

Go to isolated places of liberation"

From verse #4. Showing the Path to Liberation
An Exhortation To Seek Isolated Places

Tashi Delek

by Khenpo Karten Rinpoche (28 May 2018